I’ve always wondered, why do people even bother about having an official status in a relationship? Why do people happily announce that they’re attached? What does this status even mean?
Like a sign of power, could it be a trophy waving at others, trying to show that they’re more loved than them? Or could it be to repel other suitors from getting to their companions?
Either ways, it is among consensus that if you’re in a relationship, you stay committed to it. So an official status would directly translate into an added self-induced constraint. In other words, people are willingly setting barriers on themselves, preventing them from exploring further potential companions. Why would people do such things? Why would anybody want additional barriers? It is not as if you can’t date somebody you’re not officially attached with, so why the hassle? Shouldn’t we just start dating whoever we feel like without any constraints(and statuses), because afterall, shouldn’t we support the freedom to love?
The answer, a clear cut no.
Over time, I’ve learnt that getting a status, is like buying a new computer. There’s no guarantee this computer is gonna be the best, at the rate of technology improving and all. In other words, there is always a computer somewhere that is faster than the one you’re looking at. Your lust for the best machine is insatiable. The pursuit of the best computer can go on forever, but in the end, none would be yours, until you finally get satisfied by this one special computer that you would settle down for. This is where you place your bets, to lay down the emotional barrier that this is mine, and over time, better computers matter no more, as this is the one you’ve chosen, the one that best satisfies you, the one that is yours. This is the true essence of love, and to love is to be satisfied. New computers always look attractive, but hey like I could care less, this one is customized and well adapted to me.
What do you say when a new computer appeals to you? I don’t need you.
So I’ve chosen my computer. Have you?
